Different types of honey pt 1 ..

Warning: Use of sexy/explicit imagery .. Material helps to make a point! Just something that weighted heavy on my heart!

Oeh .. I'm so upset!
So the other day, I was talking to my dear niece Chanty. 17, beautiful dark skinned girl, with a body to die for! Somehow, our convo's always go from God to guys, to a mixture of both. This time she was telling me about the kind of guys she diggs, but that those guys are always falling for the SAME TYPE/KIND OF GIRLS! You know, the kind of girls you see in videos ..

No clue? Pic the visual:
- Curled or sleek hair, (most of the times it's a weave)
- Yellow, red or brown bone (read: light bright, red undertone and caramel-brown: Black mixed with Hispanic, Euro, Asian etc.)
- Thick or very nicely built (full frontal, small waist, biiiig hips, thighs n booty)
- A pair of babygirl/bedroom eyes (big/small eyes with long lashes)
- And thick candy rose lips

Ok, lemme give you a visual then:

Now, I think this woman is very BEAUTIFUL! I truely do!
But, there a alot of girls/women, that feel they're being overlooked by men, just 'cause they do NOT look like her or have any of the "qualities" of the notorious list. Living in a society that's based on superficiality, with video's that show you how to look, walk, live and have the " be like me or be nothing" mentality, alot of beautiful girls/women are gettin' infected by it .. the wrong way.

Because this is an issue that is being overlooked, but so important, I'll spend some of my precious blogspace on this subject. To keep this post descent (lenght wise), I will post this matter in different parts ... I told you it was heavy on my heart!

Example #1 : I know that there are alot of beautiful darkskinned/mocha girls that think they're underrated (not beautiful), 'cause their fellow black sisters are f.e. not displayed as the singer's interest in his last video. Producers rather have a interest in a girl looking like the one shown in the last picture or at least with some of the features of the list. But these beautiful darkskinned/mocha girls do lead in another part of the video ..


The booty-poppin' part ..
Yes, it is a fact that alot of darkskinned/mocha ladies, no matter how beautiful, are casted to pop sum .. Girls/women of the same shades feel like they either have to pop or rebuild sum', in order to be liked by anyone!

I know what you're thinkin' .. "Ladies need to stop that nonsence and start loving themselves no matter how they look or what skincolour they have/Didn't their mama's teach them anything about selfrespect and selflove?" Believe me, I feel the same way, and there is NOTHING more important than loving yourself! But its still a big thing for them to say "I am beautiful"!

So what I'm about to share now, goes out to ALL WOMEN!! black, white, yellow, green .. All y'all!!
What you shouldn't do is compare yourself with a model from a video or any media in paticular!! It's ok to look at magazines for a cute top or new shade of gloss, but don't shop for the same eyes and thighs! You ARE Gods masterpiece! You ARE made in HIS likeness! You're beautiful and perfect just the way you are!!

I'll tell you, look around or surf @ community sites! Girls/women are really trying to look like those vixens! Same poses, same clothes (only cheaper), same hair .. everything!! They're even giving themself the vixens last name!! That made me so upset!! I wanted to shake the girl and tell her:

Ok, so what happend to you?? Where did you put yourself? In the fridge? Probably, 'cause you think it's cool .. Pretending to be someone else! -Frizz

They just have no idea how good it feels to be your individual/original self instead of being a copy of somebody else ..

Nxt time: " How far women can go to "look sexy" in the worldly eye"

But in the meantime ..
What do you think? Share your thoughts with me!
Let's debate!!

*Mwah* Frizz